Gifts by God - Sarrah blog

Just a thought that came into my mind and I want to share.

With the first day of our existence in this world,

we all have been granted many gifts from Allah.

Gifts like beauty, intelligence, common sense, good health, 

good digestive system, and our 5 senses,

i.e., the ability to feel, see, smell, hear, and taste to name among the few.

You all will agree that everyone is not so lucky. Many times people say "I don't like this food" or use other negative words or even if you force too much then they will throw it in the bin. We don't realize that we are among the gifted ones to eat everything halal food (food permissible to consume as per Islam).

You should ask those people who love desserts but are diabetic, those people who are fond of food but are having a cholesterol or other heart disease. There are a few vegetables and fruits that I don't like to eat, but I just say Alhumdolilla(thanks to Allah) and pretend to be my favorite as I want to teach my children not to refuse any halal food that is served to them.

Times are changing so, should we? The answer is yes. As a mother, I would love to see my kids always around me even when they become an adult. but, who knows for their career and survival they might migrate to which part of the earth. maybe as parents, we are not able to accompany them, the initial stage they will have to survive without us. 

As parents, we usually become a little weak in front of our kids, and at times give in to their wants because of our emotional attachment towards them. its perfectly fine, but as parents we also need to prioritize what is essential for them and see to it that at any cost we don't compromise on it, as it will be an added boom to their future survival without us. 

When I'm a little stern about my children's upbringing at times I do get to hear a few harsh and negative words, but I don't allow it to affect my thought process for my children's upbringing. 

At this particular time what I realize the most is

  'How Difficult It Is To Be A Parent.'

 At the end of it, it is my faith that my today's hardship in my children's upbringing will surely pay off with the best of the results in their future.

Dads lagging behind?

Don’t know why dad is always lagging behind when compared to mom

1. Mom carries for 9 months, dad carries for 25 years, both are equal, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

2. Mother works without pay for the family, dad spends all his pay for the family, both their efforts are equal, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

3. Mom cooks whatever you want, dad buys whatever you want, both their love is equal, but mom’s love is shown as superior. Don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

4. When you talk over the phone, you want to talk to mom first, if you get hurt, you cry ‘mom’. You will only remember dad when you need him, but did dad ever feel bad that you don’t remember him the other times? When it comes to receiving love from children, for generations, we see that dad is always lagging.

5.  Cupboards will be filled with colorful dresses and many clothes for kids but dad’s clothes are very few, he doesn’t care about his own needs, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind

6.  Mom has many gold ornaments, but dad has maybe only a chain.

7. Dad works very hard to take care of the family, but when it comes to getting recognition, he is always lagging behind.

8. When parents become old, children say, mom is at least useful in taking care of household chores, but they say, dad is useless.

Dad is behind or ‘at the back’ because he is the backbone for the family. Because of him, we are able to stand erect. Probably, this is the reason why he is lagging behind.

I came across this post and thought, really this person is so much correct! But then on second thought, I realized that, why does this really happen? Because my children don't love me more and their fatherless even though I'm a non earning parent.

As a child, I remember relatives or some known people asking me "who do I love more, mummy or daddy?" All I remember is standing there with a zip-locked mouth looking up to my parents turn by turn with a massive confusion in mind what to answer?

True, my mother got me new clothes, but my father earned that money.
True, my today's breakfast is as per my last night's wish, but every morning I must get up with my father's voice.
True, when I'm home from school I expect my mother to answer my doorbell, but every evening I wait to see my father return home as soon as possible.

In yesteryear, it was mandatory that men went out of the house for several hours to earn a living for his family and the woman would be at home and take care of the household work. Apparently the woman i.e., the mother who was first hand available for her children in their big and small needs. 

Nowadays we have women moving out of the house to earn a living, to support her husband financially for a secure future. In that case, children are been taken care of by their grandparents or servants. In such cases it is seen that children are more attached to their grandparents or anyone who is taking care of them. It is human nature that we get emotionally attached to those who stand by us in our needs, and they are still children.

I have a friend whose father moved to a gulf country to earn his family a living, back then technology was not so advanced. The time that he and his family spent with his father was just 30 days out of 365 days. Undoubtedly the gap between the father and his children was vast and for them, their mother was the only source of parenting.

In recent years technology has advanced drastically, perhaps that is the reason, even if both the parents are working, children and parents can communicate with each other very easily and quickly. Communication is the only way to build a bridge and fill in those gaps which exist in relationship.

I don't know how many will relate to this post and agree with my words.