Never under estimate your children.

It was 2018 in school they have distributed a form if children wanted to improve their skills and appear for extra exams. Each child who was willing to participate would clear their exams from school level to state level and appear for the national level. As they cleared each level if they scored really well in the top 50 ranks they would be honored with a trophy and other children would be given a certificate. My children had cleared the school level and state level too, and they were only given an A+ grade certificate. Whereas one girl was honored with a trophy as she had scored 45th rank on the state level from their school. One of my sons Hussain asked me what is the procedure to get the trophy? I as per my knowledge just said that you need to work hard and get really good marks to stand a place in the top 50 ranks to get the trophy, and that was the end of the conversation. 

National level exams were nearing and as a mother, I did my best to prepare my children for the same. For appearing the exam the examination center was approximately 30 km away from my residence. While traveling I insisted that they should revise their work. But they were more interested in enjoying the view on the road from the car window. I had no option but to ask myself to go with the flow. 

We reached the venue. Completed all the required formalities. It was time for the kids to go to their assigned classes. Before my children went, I reminded them I'm waiting down for them, they should be calm and wished them all the best. It was 1-hour paper. My son Hussain who had inquired about how to get a trophy was out of his classroom with me in the next 30 minutes. To be franker, as I saw him getting down the stairs all that I thought was, no problem even if he fails, at least he was among those few kids who appeared for the national level. And my other kids came down after their time was over. As we sat in the car to return back home I was inquiring with my children what all was asked in the questionnaire. They were quite excited to tell me that the exam was very easy for them. But my main concern was, did they appear all the questions or not. I just kept it as a light chit chat with them on the way. 

A few weeks later I received a message from the exam organizers that two of my children have received an A+ grade. There was nowhere Hussain's name mentioned. The first thought that came to my mind was, oh no Hussain has failed and that's why in the message they have not mentioned his name. Few minutes passed and I received another message from the exam organizers mentioning that my Hussain has ranked 4th in the national level examination. I could hardly believe my eyes, I read the message at least 2-3 times to confirm what I was reading was actual or just my imagination.

My happiness had no boundaries that day. Throughout my education life, I had been an average student. For me to get trophy was just a dream, and that dream came true when my son achieved it. At the same time, I felt a little guilty as well. I underestimated him. In my place, any other person might have done the same. My instant action was to grab him, hug him tight, and kiss him. I couldn't control my tears of happiness. 

That was one moment where my son taught me a lesson for my life, that I as a parent should never underestimate my kids what may come. In 2019 my son Hussain earned another trophy on the national level for securing the 5th rank. 

 As parents, we need to be confident about our children, trust them in what they want to do and be. but side by side also be a guide and friend to them, help them if they are stuck somewhere in their life.

soul connection

HAVE YOU FELT CLOSE TO SOMEONE? 

SO CLOSE THAT YOU WONDER WHY YOU BOTH ARE IN TWO DIFFERENT BODIES? 

What is a Soulmate?

Soulmates culture would have us believe that a soulmate is the perfect romantic partner. While it's true that soulmates can make the best partners, the pairing isn’t necessarily intimate, romantic or sexual in nature. Soulmates can play any role in your life including family members, colleagues, schoolmates, neighbours, strangers and yes, lovers. A soulmate is a person whose soul has a strong connection to your soul. Soul mate connections can be described in one of three ways: soul families, soul groups and twin flames. These groups are like branches of a very large tree. The tree is Source/Spirit, and we are all part of it. That means your soulmates are actually you at a higher vibration. While in human form, we resonate more strongly with souls who are on the same branch due to our similarities and shared backgrounds. In truth, we are all soulmates, but those souls who are closest to us evoke the strongest soul memories.

Soul Family

Soul family is the spiritual equivalent to your birth family here on Earth. They may take the form of a relative here on Earth or could be anyone in your life. When you meet them, they feel like your siblings, parents or children. You and your soul family share the same over-soul, so you are all aspects of the same soul.

Purpose of a soul family is to love, nurture, support, guide, protect and help you. Soul family members help align you with your soul’s purpose and will accelerate your spiritual growth.

Duration of Soul family relationships has the greatest longevity. Of any relationship, this is the one that will last a lifetime (and beyond). The connection provides such amazing love and support, that no other relationship can surpass.

Soul Group

Whether you know it or not, you are a multidimensional being of staggering proportions. You are more than meets the eye, much more — more than your body, more than your soul, in fact, you are an integral part of the Universe. You are present on many levels of reality simultaneously and more powerful than you have ever imagined. Are you ready to expand your concept of selfhood to include higher selves, other/parallel selves, and probable selves? If so then, let’s dive in! A soul group is akin to your Earthly friends, classmates and coworkers. Soul group member meetings are often triggered by significant life events, or they act as a catalyst for major life changes.

Purpose of Your soul group members is working on the same life assignments as you so they have matching or complementary life themes. They come into your life to help you achieve a shared spiritual objective.

Due to the purpose-driven nature of these connections, these relationships may not last. No matter how short or long-lived, these encounters may be, they always serve a higher purpose.

As a child, my upbringing has been in terms of being clean at heart being humble towards others, learn to forgive, and all the positive things. When I was a teenager I learned about karma and soul. If we keep our karmas clean our soul will be happy. In late teens like any other normal teenager, there were some attractions and hormonal changes. At that time I used to think that it is love. But then eventually I realized I was falling in love with every Tom, Dick and Harry much later I considered it as infatuation or its just a crush. As a young adult, I was away from this and enjoyed focusing on earning some money.

 

In our life span, we come across many people and each one of them is present in our life for a reason. If they have done well to us they are our friends if they have done bad to us they have indirectly done well to us as we learn from our experience.

In our Indian culture, we women are brainwashed with that our groom or a prince will come in our life, marry us, love us eternal and we will be happy ever after. 

Somewhere in the year 2018, I received a gift, two books written by Dr Brian Weiss, a psychiatrist by profession and past life regression therapist. While reading his work my subconscious mind provoked my question of how to find out my soulmate. Although I'm very reluctant to get myself hypnotized to find my answer I'm sure one day I will find the answer. It may be my current life husband, or maybe someone else. But I'm very confident that there is someone. 

Over the years I have learnt and realized that our soul family is divided into three categories,  part one includes our grandparents, parents, siblings, our relatives by blood and children. Part two includes our spouse whom we choose to give our wows to and our true friends who have entered our life with a blink, all of a sudden and accompanied us in the ups and downs of our life. The third part is our soulmate or I should say our twin flame our other half, our better half or the prince/princess of our dreams. In the 5D world or spiritual world when the soul is split in two and enters the 3D world or materialistic world it's called twin flames. We may be continents apart but we will surely cross paths in our every lifetime. With every lifetime the roles of our soul family will change. My present lifetime children may have been my grandparents in a previous life. But my twin flame will always remain my twin flame in every lifetime. We may not talk to each other for long periods, we may be committed to our spouse and family, but we will connect with each other just like an electromagnetic wave in the spiritual world. 

What is a twin flame? 

A twin flame is a very special soulmate connection. You share the same immediate over-soul. To create polarity consciousness on 3-D Earth, your over-soul chose two separate expressions of itself, one male and one female, each perfectly balanced and complementary to the other. The two soul aspects may incarnate together, or one may remain on the Other Side (next dimensional level) while the other descends into this level of consciousness. You and your twin flame are perfectly complementary, like two sides of the same coin. These two individuals, possessing the same soul, are intuitively aware of each other, and spend a lifetime looking for the other.

The purpose of your twin flame is to guide and ballast, giving you both direction and balance while you are here in physical form. For instance, if you are female, or embody female characteristics, then your twin flame is comprised of male characteristics. You are perfect expressions of yin-yang energies. Your twin will push and pull you through learning curves. A meeting with your twin here on Earth would profoundly accelerate your spiritual growth.

What are the connection and the chances of the meeting?

The soul is multidimensional and therefore has multiple twin flames; however, the portion of your soul that is incarnated here has only one twin flame.

It used to be rare to have both halves of the over-soul incarnated here on Earth at the same time, but that’s changing. With our imminent expansion of consciousness into 5D, more twin flames are choosing to reunite here on Earth. Still, the chance of meeting your twin flame is slim. That doesn’t mean you can’t connect with your twin flame via spiritual methods.


Relationship with your twin flame:-
You cannot hide anything from your twin flame. All aspects of your being, both light and dark, are transparent to your twin. That means anything that isn’t resolved, healed or in balance will rise to the surface when you’re together. This can be overwhelmingly intense if you haven’t worked through your issues before meeting your twin. That’s why most twins have chosen not to incarnate together.

Duration:-
The twin flame connection transcends this Earthly realm and is therefore absolutely permanent. That being said, twin flame relationships here on Earth do not always last due to the intensity of the bond and the yin-yang nature of your two souls. The duration, therefore, depends greatly on timing and soul preparation.

Other relationships may involve seeking your twin flame, who may or may not be here in this incarnation. A twin flame is literally the other half of your soul that makes you whole, yet at the same time, each twin flame is a complete soul. They form a complete balance of the male and female energies. Your previous relationships were also soul contracts to help you prepare to be with your twin flame. When you meet your twin flame, you’ll know it immediately.


Some twin flames aren’t here in this incarnation. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get married or have children because your twin flame (in the ethereal realms) wants you to experience everything that can bring you joy and happiness in this incarnation, as well as to learn as many life lessons to help your spiritual growth. He or she is still part of your soul group but decided not to join you in this incarnation. Don’t take it personally! They’re still with you in heart and in spirit.
It’s also important to remember that some twin flames remain on the other side to provide you with help and spiritual guidence. Some souls decided to come here without them because they “heard the call” and they knew they were needed here in this incarnation. Please keep in mind that not everyone from your soul group will incarnate at the same time!

Gifts by God - Sarrah blog

Just a thought that came into my mind and I want to share.

With the first day of our existence in this world,

we all have been granted many gifts from Allah.

Gifts like beauty, intelligence, common sense, good health, 

good digestive system, and our 5 senses,

i.e., the ability to feel, see, smell, hear, and taste to name among the few.

You all will agree that everyone is not so lucky. Many times people say "I don't like this food" or use other negative words or even if you force too much then they will throw it in the bin. We don't realize that we are among the gifted ones to eat everything halal food (food permissible to consume as per Islam).

You should ask those people who love desserts but are diabetic, those people who are fond of food but are having a cholesterol or other heart disease. There are a few vegetables and fruits that I don't like to eat, but I just say Alhumdolilla(thanks to Allah) and pretend to be my favorite as I want to teach my children not to refuse any halal food that is served to them.

Times are changing so, should we? The answer is yes. As a mother, I would love to see my kids always around me even when they become an adult. but, who knows for their career and survival they might migrate to which part of the earth. maybe as parents, we are not able to accompany them, the initial stage they will have to survive without us. 

As parents, we usually become a little weak in front of our kids, and at times give in to their wants because of our emotional attachment towards them. its perfectly fine, but as parents we also need to prioritize what is essential for them and see to it that at any cost we don't compromise on it, as it will be an added boom to their future survival without us. 

When I'm a little stern about my children's upbringing at times I do get to hear a few harsh and negative words, but I don't allow it to affect my thought process for my children's upbringing. 

At this particular time what I realize the most is

  'How Difficult It Is To Be A Parent.'

 At the end of it, it is my faith that my today's hardship in my children's upbringing will surely pay off with the best of the results in their future.

Women Empowerment and Her Periods.

Periods:- Your body's monthly visitor.  But no matter how many times that visitor stops by,  menstruation /periods remain a taboo topic around the globe.

Few days back I came across this particular video which conveyed a message that we women no more be ashamed of saying and accepting that we get our periods every month.

As a matter of fact, many women who are in their periods are not allowed to be in the kitchen or attend ritual practices, according to a 2016 Hindustan Times.

According to The Wire, many don't believe periods to be natural, while others consider them dirty.

This reminds me of my personal experience that I'm sharing with you all. Somewhere in the early 1990's. When I was about to get my periods for the first time or should I say that my mother felt the need to educate me about periods, that I too will be facing in the near future, she (my mother) took the help of my father. As she knew that with the word bleeding, I would panic. As we all say that a father is the super hero for her daughter it kind of was the same for me too at that time. My father said don't worry it won't pain and we are there with you, it's no big deal. Innocent me, I trusted him then, I thought it ended there but, then my mother's words followed "don't tell anyone. Okay?" Although I didn't understand what was the reason then but, as an obedient child I said "okay." Soon the day came, I got my first period. 

People who menstruate have long been taught to be ashamed of or keep silent about their periods. 

My dadi who was then 70+ years (father's mother) stayed with us, she was a witness to this situation. My dadi was the eldest among her siblings and even bed ridden, that's why her brothers and sisters with their entire family often visited us. You can say a full family get-together of 20-25 people in our house. She was witness to my mom's words as well "don't tell anyone" Still there came an announcement from her adjusting her dupatta pallu (Stole) over her head "Listen everyone I want you all to know that my youngest granddaughter (pointing towards me) has started getting her periods!" I was stunned and confused as everyone started looking at me, probably for two reasons, one was it a co-incidence that I was standing in the middle or is it the announcement that made me the centre of attention? Later, I realized people are congratulating us. This whole situation for me at that age was so very difficult to understand. 

Somewhere in the later part of the day I asked my dadi "why did you make that announcement? Mummy had asked me not to tell anyone anything about it." She replied like a typical mother-in-law "Oh your mother doesn't know anything. It is definitely time to celebrate as, you have stepped into the process of turning into a woman from a small girl."

Although I only understood her words but today, I realized the importance of her words. She was a woman who was much more modernized in her thoughts as per her age and era. 

Globally, the stigma of menstruation is perpetrated by the cultural taboos, discrimination, lack of education, silence and period poverty (the inability to get access to/afford feminine hygiene products). 

Sometimes I wonder if my dadi would have been alive today, she would definitely be a role model for modernization and women empowerment. 

Being a mother to sons, I have made up my mind to educate them about menstruation with same modernization so that the future generations are no longer taught to be ashamed of or keep silent about menstruation/periods or what ever you name it. 

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Dads lagging behind?

Don’t know why dad is always lagging behind when compared to mom

1. Mom carries for 9 months, dad carries for 25 years, both are equal, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

2. Mother works without pay for the family, dad spends all his pay for the family, both their efforts are equal, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

3. Mom cooks whatever you want, dad buys whatever you want, both their love is equal, but mom’s love is shown as superior. Don’t know why dad is lagging behind.

4. When you talk over the phone, you want to talk to mom first, if you get hurt, you cry ‘mom’. You will only remember dad when you need him, but did dad ever feel bad that you don’t remember him the other times? When it comes to receiving love from children, for generations, we see that dad is always lagging.

5.  Cupboards will be filled with colorful dresses and many clothes for kids but dad’s clothes are very few, he doesn’t care about his own needs, still don’t know why dad is lagging behind

6.  Mom has many gold ornaments, but dad has maybe only a chain.

7. Dad works very hard to take care of the family, but when it comes to getting recognition, he is always lagging behind.

8. When parents become old, children say, mom is at least useful in taking care of household chores, but they say, dad is useless.

Dad is behind or ‘at the back’ because he is the backbone for the family. Because of him, we are able to stand erect. Probably, this is the reason why he is lagging behind.

I came across this post and thought, really this person is so much correct! But then on second thought, I realized that, why does this really happen? Because my children don't love me more and their fatherless even though I'm a non earning parent.

As a child, I remember relatives or some known people asking me "who do I love more, mummy or daddy?" All I remember is standing there with a zip-locked mouth looking up to my parents turn by turn with a massive confusion in mind what to answer?

True, my mother got me new clothes, but my father earned that money.
True, my today's breakfast is as per my last night's wish, but every morning I must get up with my father's voice.
True, when I'm home from school I expect my mother to answer my doorbell, but every evening I wait to see my father return home as soon as possible.

In yesteryear, it was mandatory that men went out of the house for several hours to earn a living for his family and the woman would be at home and take care of the household work. Apparently the woman i.e., the mother who was first hand available for her children in their big and small needs. 

Nowadays we have women moving out of the house to earn a living, to support her husband financially for a secure future. In that case, children are been taken care of by their grandparents or servants. In such cases it is seen that children are more attached to their grandparents or anyone who is taking care of them. It is human nature that we get emotionally attached to those who stand by us in our needs, and they are still children.

I have a friend whose father moved to a gulf country to earn his family a living, back then technology was not so advanced. The time that he and his family spent with his father was just 30 days out of 365 days. Undoubtedly the gap between the father and his children was vast and for them, their mother was the only source of parenting.

In recent years technology has advanced drastically, perhaps that is the reason, even if both the parents are working, children and parents can communicate with each other very easily and quickly. Communication is the only way to build a bridge and fill in those gaps which exist in relationship.

I don't know how many will relate to this post and agree with my words.

Christmas drawing and it's faith

Christmas themed drawing made by my 9 year old son Hussain. 

On facebook I came across an advertisement where we could register ourselves and drawing  for a certain amount of money. I thought it was a good idea and shared it with Hussain. He was super excited and all geared up for the drawing. 

It so happened that when I  was registering him and his drawing online, it was showing error and I wasn't able to proceed further. I tried 3-4 times but didn't succeed. 

Although my little boy was very upset with the situation, but Alhumdolillah I'm blessed with very understanding kids. I made him understand what I always feel, that what ever happens, happens for good. May it wasn't right and fruitful for us that's why Allah ta'ala was stopping us and protecting us from problems. 

This is the only thing that keeps me positive in life.

Surprisingly Twins- Sarrah blog

The Entry Of Twins In My Life.

Today it so happened that my husband and his siblings had met after a very long time, as they have moved to different cities of different countries for career opportunities. My brother-in-law had invited us for lunch, although we stay just next door. One of my twins asked me if he could get ready and go. Giving him the permission I said let me get your jeans ready.

Well, I thought that was the end of our conversation, and I started to do the needful. But I was wrong. Instantly he popped another question at me, “mummy how do you come to know what I want?” to which on a lighter note I replied to him “because I’m your mummy.”

From his expressions, I could make out my answer was not satisfactory to him. Just to get him in confidence I asked him to gather his brothers as I need to tell them something. I then narrated to my kids one most important day of my life and tried to make them understand how the mother inside me tells me what is right for them.

 

It all started when I had already conceived but the doctor’s visit was still pending. I had some feeling inside me saying “Sarrah it’s two.” At that time I was in UAE with my husband. In the evening when he returned from work I gave him the good news over the dinner that he will be a father soon but, I think it’s two inside my stomach. My husband who was happy but with a doubt asked what made me feel like that. I tried to explain to him but it failed because I couldn't express or explain what made me so sure of double pregnancy. He asked me not to overthink, but I wasn't overthinking at all. All I could tell him was to visit the gynecologist soon and confirm the pregnancy.

The next day being his weekly off we went visiting a gynecologist for the pregnancy test. It was positive. Doctor asked us to get my first sonography done, and it showed her dual pregnancy.

With a pleasant smile on her face, the doctor congratulated me and said its dual pregnancy, nothing to worry or get tensed. I thanked her in return and said somehow I knew it’s twins but she needs to confirm it to my husband standing out. 

The doctor was surprised to my statement, how come I knew it's dual pregnancy, and ended up asking me if I had got myself tested elsewhere. I said no just the inner feeling. With a smiling ‘okay’ she called out to my husband who was standing out and waiting eagerly for me. When the gynecologist confirmed dual pregnancy to my husband he was in a complete state of shock. All that I could see is mixed expressions on his face. The doctor showed him the sonography video and pointed out the two eggs that could be seen.

That was the start of it and it continues till now when my twines are 10 years. I somehow know their 

needs.

After I finished telling them this incident all that I was left with was “mummy how do you come to know what we need?”

When I was young and my mother fulfilled my requirements without me telling her anything I also used to wonder, is she some superwoman or mind reader that she knows what I require. Even I must have troubled her with many of my whys and hows. She too must have tried to give me satisfactory answers which must have gone into the drain.

But now when I’m a mother myself I have got my answers and so will my kids when they become fathers(Ameen).

P. S. I have used little different words but with the same

feelings while narrating it to my children.